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Should I Ask for Sex on my First Date

Posted Monday, October 25th, 2010
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Many people are open enough to have sex on a first date. There is nothing wrong with this as long as both parties are interested. The trick is finding out if your date is interested in this without coming across as too forward or creepy. Here’s what you should know.

Pay Attention

During the date you should have ample time to get to know the other person. If the conversation seems to be going towards a more sexual or more teasing direction, this person may be open to having sex on the first date. Listen to what they say, watch their body language. If it seems to be a more sensual gesture, match it and wait for a reaction. If your date seems standoffish, and avoids the subject of sex, then don’t bother asking. Chances are good they won’t take kindly to your advances after just one date.

You Shouldn’t Have to Ask

As the evening wraps up, take your date home- as in see them to their door. Go in for the classic kiss, and see what happens. If they invite you in, then go for it. Have another drink, talk some more, and just see where things go. It’s really not a good idea to come right out and ask for sex at any time, especially on the first date. If it happens naturally, perfect. If you have to ask for it, the answer will be no. You also probably won’t get a second date, and will have to go through all of that again. Remember the adage ‘the best things in life are worth waiting for’. Sex is absolutely one of these things.

The Risks Of Dating With People I Work With

Posted Monday, October 18th, 2010
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Dating or sleeping with people you work with can be a bad idea. Even if the temptation is strong, there are several things you should think about before you do this.

Company Policy

Many companies have policies that prohibit coworkers from fraternizing. These kinds of policies can be found in the smallest family run businesses to large corporations. There is always a good reason for this. If one person ends up getting promoted, it can lead to sticky situations. Many companies will let employees go if they find out. Check your company policy to see what rules are in place before you even consider dating a co-worker.

Personality Differences

Many of us are great at putting on one mask for work, and another for home. The most professional person at work can be a complete slacker and slob at home. The quiet one can be a huge gossip. When you meet people at work and only see them at work, you are only seeing one side of them, and it’s typically not the side that matters. This can lead to nasty break ups later, making office politics difficult.

Politics

Speaking of office politics, this is another reason it’s not a good idea to date someone you work with. If it doesn’t go well, you run the risk of becoming the topic of water cooler discussions. If you don’t want everyone in the office to know all of your business, then  you should keep work and social activities separate. It’s also going to be hard to be taken seriously if the rumor mill gets started.